The dissolution of TomKat’s marriage is old news by now, but you can’t help but wonder about all the waving neon flags that Cruise managed to miss. I mean, talk about getting blind-sided — and all so publicly.
Alas, Tom Cruise isn’t the first to have been duped. Remember the late, brilliant Nora Ephron’s Heartburn? Nora chose to ignore some blaring bullhorns in that saga. Of course, that heartbreak manifested into a hugely successful smash, but a broken heart is a broken heart. I’m not telling you to be a paranoid nut… but pay attention… and don’t settle for anybody’s crumbs.
Now, for our top ON FIRE red flags while you are still in a relationship… drum roll please…
Red Flag #1: You’re Not Getting Any
Is your man more passionate in the kitchen cooking then he is in the sack? Is he squeamish about your lustiness, fondness for leather panties and the occasional spanking? No discussion here. Get the hell out. It’s not gonna get any better.
I had a real mess of a boyfriend who explained to me that he liked me too much to have sex with me. He could do whores, just not women he liked. Oy….
Red Flag #2: He’s a Cheat.
An obvious one, you’d think… but the most spectacular women in the world have put up with cheats, porn freaks and their “sex addictions.” Tiger Woods, Jesse James, Peter Cook, Russell Brand… Let’s leave this humiliating drama to our college years and avoid compulsive damaged dudes, shall we?
Red Flag #3: He Disses his Ex…
…And blames her for his emotionally frozen take on the world. “Baggage” from his past will keep you begging for the “L” word, compliments and just plain ole love and respect. Run for the hill, ladies. This doozie needs to do some deep inner work — and will only leave you dining on a plate of empty fare.
To learn all of the Red Flags click here.
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